where we put our thoughts is what we give power

So you say to the Fire,… “Bring me heat and I’ll bring you wood”. Umm,…. nooooo! Do you have your “cause” and “effect” backward? — — — — — — — — We’ve got to give thanks to get more to be thankful for! A super healthy discipline is a 15-minute sit each day for…

if you THINK you are unhappy

Story ——— “Once upon a time, there was a nonconforming sparrow who decided not to fly south for the winter. However, soon the weather turned so cold that he reluctantly started to fly south.  In a short time, ice began to form on his wings and he fell to earth in a barnyard, almost frozen….

understand commitment thru personality types

STORY….  Boy meets girl. Boy falls in-love and ready for marriage! Tonight he pops the question! Type 1/Blue/Sapphire/motivated by Fun: He says, “I love you. Let’s elope!” She says, “Yes!” Type 2/Yellow/Pearl/motivated by Comfort: He says, “Will you marry me? This ring was my grandmother’s. I hope you love it as much as I love…

a symptom is never ever ever the problem

PICTURE WITH ME…. Your child comes running off the playground with the beginnings of a black eye and a bloody nose. You wipe their little face clean, kiss the eye, and let them run back eager to play. A few minutes later, here they come running off the playground with the other eye bruised, and…

“let me know if I can do anything”

Like fingers on a chalkboard, right? Yet we’ve all been there, so think of it this way…. “If” sends the hope they won’t ask “Let me know” is one more decision put on them because IF they knew what they need, they would have already dealt with it They have no idea what you “can”…

resist to react, then respond

Next time someone insists on getting their way…. and YOU, by the way, feel the same about your opinion!…. as long as everyone is safe, I invite you to resist temptation to react with the argument for your side (plus a less than 50/50 chance of anyone really winning). Instead respond…. “Great idea! We haven’t…