Transitioning Category
understand commitment thru personality types
STORY…. Boy meets girl. Boy falls in-love and ready for marriage! Tonight he pops the question! Type 1/Blue/Sapphire/motivated by Fun: He says, “I love you. Let’s elope!” She says, “Yes!” Type 2/Yellow/Pearl/motivated by Comfort: He says, “Will you marry me? This ring was my grandmother’s. I hope you love it as much as I love […]
a symptom is never ever ever the problem
PICTURE WITH ME…. Your child comes running off the playground with the beginnings of a black eye and a bloody nose. You wipe their little face clean, kiss the eye, and let them run back eager to play. A few minutes later, here they come running off the playground with the other eye bruised, and […]
“let me know if I can do anything”
Like fingers on a chalkboard, right? Yet we’ve all been there, so think of it this way…. “If” sends the hope they won’t ask “Let me know” is one more decision put on them because IF they knew what they need, they would have already dealt with it They have no idea what you “can” […]
resist to react, then respond
Next time someone insists on getting their way…. and YOU, by the way, feel the same about your opinion!…. as long as everyone is safe, I invite you to resist temptation to react with the argument for your side (plus a less than 50/50 chance of anyone really winning). Instead respond…. “Great idea! We haven’t […]
“dental” floss and the dance
Okay, brother Dave, this is for you! You’ll be ready for that wedding! The secret you seek…. The secret to the Floss Dance is that you don’t move your hips, you bend your knees! (click here to read my story teaching latin dance) And for those here waiting to learn about actual floss, my favorite […]
the difference between guilt and guilty
Guilty equates responsibility. Those responsible hold any chance of power to change the outcome, and to receive forgiveness. Guilt, on the other hand, is self inflicted suffering with no connection as to whether you are, or you are not, guilty. An internal struggle to accept reality. I’ve always known that if something could be my […]
she calls me dear Yoda
Thank you back my dear Janna Le! For all your support and input through the years! It’s great to speak the same language!! “But try if.” Well, that’s not really a sentence to anyone! THESE ARE THE THREE WORDS you are going to wonder how they ever made it into English language. It also answers […]
the makeup of an apology
“Guy walks into a bar…..” He sits at the counter. Moments later, you his best friend, walks up from behind dressed like a circus clown. Whole kit and caboodle! The birthday boy sitting at the counter turns around startled by the bright white makeup and red nose in his face, and leaps out of the […]
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