understand commitment thru personality types

STORY….  Boy meets girl. Boy falls in-love and ready for marriage! Tonight he pops the question! Type 1/Sapphire/Fun motivated: He says, “I love you. Let’s elope!” She says, “Yes!” Type 2/Pearl/Comfort motivated: He says, “Will you marry me? This ring was my grandmother’s. I hope you love it as much as I love you.” She…

a symptom is never ever ever the problem

PICTURE WITH ME…. Your child comes running off the playground with the beginnings of a black eye and a bloody nose. You wipe their little face clean, kiss the eye, and let them run back eager to play. A few minutes later, here they come running off the playground with the other eye bruised, and…

“let me know if I can do anything”

Like fingers on a chalkboard, right? Yet we’ve all been there, so think of it this way…. “If” sends the hope they won’t ask “Let me know” is one more decision put on them because IF they knew what they need, they would have already dealt with it They have no idea what you “can”…

resist to react, then respond

Next time someone insists on getting their way…. and YOU, by the way, feel the same about your opinion!…. as long as everyone is safe, I invite you to resist temptation to react with the argument for your side (plus a less than 50/50 chance of anyone really winning). Instead respond…. “Great idea! We haven’t…

“dental” floss and the dance

Okay, brother Dave, this is for you! You’ll be ready for that wedding! The secret you seek…. The secret to the Floss Dance is that you don’t move your hips, you bend your knees! (click here to read my story teaching latin dance) And for those here waiting to learn about actual floss, my favorite…

the difference between guilt and guilty

Guilty equates responsibility. Those responsible hold any chance of power to change the outcome, and to receive forgiveness. Guilt, on the other hand, is self inflicted suffering with no connection as to whether you are, or you are not, guilty. An internal struggle to accept reality. I’ve always known that if something could be my…